The argument is as old as the hills, many men seem to think domestic chores are just that, whereas as many women see them as a necessary part of building a loving home. That’s where the trouble often starts.
Now, I’m not going to tell men they should do more around the house, that’s for each couple to talk about and agree how housework is broken down between them.
What I’m going to invite men to think about here is how they can combine their love of “toys” with creating a loving home – starting in the garden.
If you’re the kind of guy that doesn’t know the vacuum cleaner from a dish cloth, and what’s more doesn’t want to, how can you still do your bit in the home? Well, I believe that the garden is the perfect place to start.
Why not take the initiative and without waiting to be asked get on and sort out the jungle your unkempt garden has become?
Sure, clearing an overgrown and neglected garden might seem like an overwhelming task but with modern power tools it can be quicker and easier than you could ever imagine.
I can almost hear you grown as you imagine all the hard work. But hold on…
…sure you’d rather be sitting on the sofa with your buddies watching the game. But if you’re not pulling your weight around the home and sharing in the duties then your spouse is potentially going to feel neglected. In her mind she may equate not caring about creating a home together with you not caring about here.
We both know where that path leads over time. So if you want to build a happy home and marriage then doing your share is important. But here’s the thing if you’re proactive and don’t wait to be asked, you can CHOOSE which jobs to do. The very fact you’re doing more around the home with help your wife feel valued. And a wife who feels valued is a happy wife.
So back to that jungle of a garden, where to start? Here’s a simple three step plan.
Step 1. Clear the ground! If you’re garden has been left for any time then it may well be a tangle of scrub. It might not be your first choice of how to spend an afternoon but if you’re going to do it, this is the place to start. Personally I prefer a garden strimmer for this job. A cheap cordless one is fine for edging but for clearing scrub go for corded or even better a petrol garden strimmer. IT will save you hours of work and clears scrub so fast it makes your hair stand on end! But, it’s serious piece of kit so make sure you wear the recommended safety gear.
Step 2. Trim back any bushes, shrubs or hedge. These form the boundaries of the eye, and you’re trying to catch your wife’s eye here so make sure you do a good job. Once again garden shears are fine for smaller jobs but a cordless hedge trimmer or petrol hedge cutter will do the job quicker and more easily.
Step 3. Ask your wife’s opinion on how she might like to use the garden and how she’d like it laid out. If she’s not used to you asking here opinion she’s going to get quite a shock here. But, just tell her that you know how much work she does around the house to create a great home. Let her know that you really want to do you bit and you thought creating a garden that you both can enjoy would be a great place to start. Then shut up and listen!
That’s right, listen. I know this can be a stretch for some people at first. But, listen to what your wife really wants out of the garden and get busy creating it. I suspect you’ll be delighted in how your marriage improves and don’t be too surprised if she gets some beers in and suggests you invite your buddies around to watch the game? Talk about win win.
Go on give it a try, you night even have some fun on the way…